“The addiction really all started in third grade when I was 9 years old,” says now 13-year-old Joseph, featured in the movie Over 18, a documentary
about the impact of pornography.
While playing an online game, a porno-
graphic ad drew him in. “For the few sec-
onds that I saw it, I couldn’t get it out of my
His mother says Joseph’s four-year ad-
diction happened in the living room and
kitchen of the home while the family was
present and she had no idea. At first glance
that might sound absurd, but with a simple
click he was viewing homework or kid-
friendly videos when she looked over his
Joseph’s family believed three myths that
many families believe.
• I have a good kid that wouldn’t do that.
• My child would look away if they saw
• The measures I have in place are good
1. Realize it’s not a matter of if, but when,
your child will see pornography.
The truth is 90 percent of boys and 63 percent of girls see pornography online. The
question is, are they prepared to deal with
it appropriately? We need to stop believing
these myths, because they prevent us from
educating and preparing our kids.
2. Pull out the calendar and set times to
talk to your kids about the dangers of
One of the easiest ways to end a conversation
and prevent follow-up is to say, “We should
get together.” But what often happens? We
see the person in passing again and say the
same thing while never getting together.
Why? We don’t take the proactive steps.
So here’s what you do. Right now, before
finishing this article, put it on your calendar
to talk to your children about pornography
at least once a month. As the saying goes,
there are seven days in the week, none of
them are named “Someday.” And, “Later”
never comes. Do it today.
3. Maintain an environment of safety for
open and honest conversations.
So now that you have specific days and
times set on the calendar to talk to your
kids, it’s time to think critically about how
you interact with them. How approachable
are you? Do you welcome your children
emotionally or do you project an unseen
Protecting Your Children
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By Sam Black Realize it’s not a matter of if, but when, your child will see pornography.