a temporal reward in this life, rather than
looking at You as my reward. You are my
reward, and I am blessed in You.”
“Fear not . . . I am thy shield, and
thy exceeding great reward” (
Genesis 15: 1).
2. I learned to have the right kind
Grieving over our children’s sin is the
right kind of grief. Grieving over the loss
of our reputation isn’t. Grieving over the
fact that our children are deceived and
need Christ is good grief. Grieving to the
point of bitterness and rejection because
of our hurt is not good. We are like God
to grieve over sin like He does. It grieves
His heart to see His creation not only reject Him, but cause their own harm. His
love grieves over the harm they are doing
to themselves and the separation from
His heart. We would do well to grieve
with God and mourn over what we (
collectively) have done to God’s heart in
separating from Him. He feels the same
pain we do over His prodigal children.
When the pain of grief hits you unexpectedly, don’t fall into discouragement,
but let that pain be your reminder to stop
everything and do battle on your knees
for the very soul of your prodigal.
And God saw that the wickedness of
man was great in the earth, and that
every imagination of the thoughts of
his heart was only evil continually .
. . and it grieved him at his heart”
(Genesis 6: 5, 6).
3. What I believe about God
should be greater than what I
believe about my child.
For a time, I believed that my child was
unreachable; I believed that change
wouldn’t come. I put more faith in my
own thoughts about my child than I did
in the God Who created the universe
with the breath of His Word. Who is
greater: the prodigal or His Maker? Easy
answer, but sometimes we have to retrain
our brain to think the right thoughts. His
Word always contains the right thoughts.
His thoughts are higher than ours. We
can renew our minds through soaking in,
staying in, abiding in, and believing the
very words of God—nothing is too hard
“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of
all flesh: is there any thing too hard
for me?” (Jeremiah 32: 27).
“Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove
what is that good, and acceptable,
and perfect, will of God.” (Romans
4. I learned where to find help.
I could not talk to many people. Even at
times, my spouse couldn’t understand
what was going on in my heart. In my
weakness and quest for help, I had one
place to run: God alone. Though my
earth was shaking, I found God alone to
be my strong fortress. You, too, can pour
out your heart before Him.
“For God alone my soul waits in
silence; from him comes my salvation. He alone is my rock and my
salvation, my fortress; I shall not be
greatly shaken . . . For God alone, O
my soul, wait in silence, for my hope
is from him. He only is my rock and
my salvation, my fortress; I shall not
be shaken. On God rests my salvation