So if you don’t know, find out, and
make it your own. Write it down on
the doorposts of your house. Speak the
truth to her when she is feeling low.
Stand your ground, and insist that she
take breaks and enjoy the weekends to
2. Encourage, encourage, encourage.
Believe it or not, your wife spends most
of her life discouraged. It’s up to you to
encourage her throughout the year. And
by throughout the year, I mean daily or
at least weekly. Take a sticky note, and
tell her what an awesome teacher she is,
and post it by her toothbrush. Send her
a text thanking her for making the sacrifice to homeschool your children. Take
the family out to dinner to get away from
the routine and the house. Send her flowers on a gray day or during a hard week.
Don’t just think about it; do it! In fact,
take a few seconds right now and think
about how you might encourage her in
these first few days of homeschooling.
3. Be understanding. Set aside your own
desires for a clean house, gourmet meals,
and frequent, romantic interludes. Your
wife is homeschooling your children and
doesn’t have the same time that a non-homeschooler has. Don’t heap expectations on her. Give her a break, and be
thankful for a dinner of frosted flakes.
4. Pray. Don’t just say you’ll pray for your
homeschooling wife; do it. Pray for these
• Joy in mothering
• Wisdom in parenting
• Love of learning
• Purpose in homeschooling
• The ability to see her children through
• Energy to get it all done
• Protection from the lies of the enemy
5. Give. Your wife needs you to give her
time alone without the family. She needs
you to give her time to be with God. She
needs you to give her time to plan. She
needs you to give her time with other
moms. She needs you to give her time
with you alone.
She doesn’t want to take the time; she
needs you to give her the time. You’re the
leader in this homeschool journey. Make
it happen. I know it takes time away from
your stuff, but do it because you’re the Dad.
I’m telling you, Dad, there isn’t a woman out there who wouldn’t desire a man
who does these things for her (including
mine). Let’s make this the best year ever,
and lead the charge.
Start by asking your wife today what
you could do to best encourage her right
now in homeschooling. And then make
Have a great homeschooling year, Dad.
You’ve chosen the best.
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Help! I’m Married to a Homeschooling
Todd Wilson, author of Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe, Help! I’m Married to
a Homeschooling Mom, and The Official
Book of Homeschooling Cartoons, is a dad,
writer, conference speaker, and former pastor.
Todd’s humor and gut-honest realness have
made him a favorite speaker at homeschool
conventions across the country and a guest
on Focus on the Family. As founder of Family
man Ministries, his passion and mission are
to remind dads and moms of what’s most
important through a weekly e-mail for dads,
seminars, and books that encourage parents. Todd, and his wife Debbie, homeschool
their eight children in northern Indiana
and travel around America in the Familyman Mobile. You can visit Familyman Ministries at www.familymanweb.com
No more coasting or assigning it as “her thing.”
It’s up to you and me to make this year the best
homeschool year ever.