Speak Words of Life
Walking the narrow path implies avoiding the wider paths. One common wide
path is insensitive speech. How many
times do men say, “I just tell it like it is”?
Being truthful without love is unbibli-cal and leaves a lot of carnage behind.
When Jesus spoke, glorious things happened. Demons were cast out, diseases
were healed, and even the dead were
raised. What happens when you or I
speak? Are family members set on edge
or do they feel safe? It is doubtful our
words will ever literally raise the dead,
but our words can impart emotional
health and healing to family members.
Some wives are dying inside and need to
hear that we notice and appreciate what
they do. Tell her—today if need be—that
she is making an eternal difference. Our
children need affirmation, too. Some
children are hardened by our blunt and
careless words. Even the most rebellious child needs words that edify and
bless, preserving their sense of dignity
as God’s child.
Another path off the narrow road is
Abound in Grace
pride. Have you ever taken pride to bed
because you didn’t want to apologize to
your spouse? I have. Thankfully, by God’s
grace, I’m able to clearly see how harm-
ful this is to a marriage. When a man
sins against his wife and does nothing to
resolve that pain, she becomes vulner-
able to a host of sins. We are called as
Christians to never put a stumbling block
in the way of a brother or sister in Christ.
Romans 14: 13 says, “Let us not therefore
judge one another anymore: but judge
this rather, that no man put a stum-
bling block or an occasion to fall in his
brother’s way.” A man’s unwillingness to
take ownership for sin is one of the most
destructive forces in marriage. God calls
every husband to cherish and protect his
spouse, even at great cost to his own well-
being. If there is unconfessed sin in your
marriage, seek forgiveness today. If the
sin of pride is damaging your marriage,
ask your wife how to earn back trust.
Then take every measure to do that. Even
when your wife is unwilling to accept re-
sponsibility for her own sin, always take
initiative as the leader to do your part to
make things right.
During a car ride, my oldest son was using a
It’s Who We Are
vulgar expression, and I got all over him for it.
The next day we were playing a family game,
and I made an inappropriate comment. The
Holy Spirit convicted me right away of my
hypocrisy. Equally important to asking for
forgiveness is the narrow path of offering
forgiveness. Offering forgiveness will never
come naturally until we realize how often
God shows us grace. As men, we have to take
what we receive from God and offer it to our
family. If God is quick to forgive our sin, we
can be quick to forgive sin against us. This is
especially important for our children to see
because we are the lens they look through to
understand what God is like. Some young
people walk away from the faith because
they’ve heard about grace at church, but
rarely seen it modeled at home.
The narrow path always means dying to
self, but it isn’t a losing of self. Eastern religions such as Buddhism teach that the
annihilation of one’s identity is a virtue.
This is not Christian. The path of serving
our wife and children can be hard and,
at times, exhausting, but as we do it, we
will become more ourselves, not less ourselves. It is in serving God that we taste
real joy and gratitude in who we are in
Christ. God created us to be His servants.
When we fail to give to God and others, we will always live unsatisfied and
even despairing lives. When we willingly
choose to live for God and others, we will
experience life at its fullest. For husbands
and fathers, this living for others begins
Randy Saller and his wife Amy Jo homeschool their three children in Lake Villa,
Illinois. Randy is a learning disabilities
specialist for a public school and a freelance
writer. He has written for Turtle Magazine,
The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine, and
Chicago Special Parent. For more information about the author, you may contact him
via email at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit his
website at www.randysaller.com.
Our words can impart emotional health and healing to family members.