to do are right, safe, and good, then obedience will be easier for them.
Obedience is the one thing God requires
of our children because it reveals the condition of their hearts. It challenges their
flesh when their will is crossed. Now that
my kids are older, my husband and I have
begun to teach them a deeper definition
for obedience. It is, “I yield to authority
with my attitudes and actions.” As parents,
we are responsible to train our children in
righteousness and position them to obey
God more fully. Obedience honors God.
Any instruction you give your kids could
fit under the rule of obedience.
It has been said that kindness is just love
in action. We know that God commands
us to love one another, yet sometimes we
fail to be intentional about being kind. It
must be deliberate at first, but it eventu-
ally becomes a natural outgrowth of good
character. I used to teach my kids that be-
ing kind is, “treating others the way I like
to be treated.” I still believe that, but I have
added a twist.
Being kind is really “treating others the
way they like to be treated.” They have
to make it their concern to know what
kindness is to others, not just what it is to
themselves. They can learn these things
by observation and by taking time to really listen. Being kind is the opposite of
manipulation. It really is love.
Be a Helper
Being a helper is so much more than just
doing the jobs you are told to do. It is,
“Finding things that need to be done, and
doing them.” It means noticing someone
in need and going out of your way to lend
a hand. As you are training your kids to
take initiative, ask them, “What needs to
be done?” and see what they notice. It
will help them grow in this valuable skill.
A helper also enjoys the feeling of mak-
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ing someone else’s job easier. I love the
word available. You might ask your kids,
“Who is available to help right now?” It is
a great way to get them thinking “I could
stop what I’m doing and become avail-
able; I can be a helper.” Having a helpful
heart is a priceless virtue.
As I mentioned earlier, these three vir-
tues are very important to get in the right
The Three Rules Poster from We Choose
Virtues features the kids who represent each
virtue: Oboe Joe (Obedient), Kettle Gretel
(Kind), and Hat Matt (Helpful). This poster
is available at wechoosevirtues.com/
They have to make it their concern to know what
kindness is to others, not just what it is to themselves.