If you were to sit your kids down to- night and ask them, “What are the three most important rules in our home?” What would they say? Do
you ever feel like you have too many
rules and that your kids are missing the
point of them all?
Rules are important because they set
the boundaries for right and wrong ac-
tions. They let everyone know the expec-
tations. Here are some tips for coming up
with a good set of rules:
• Too many rules tends to make the
environment feel negative. For this
reason, I recommend selecting just
three. Yes, there is something like a
thousand to consolidate, but it can
be done! Keep reading!
• The clearer your rules are, the better
likelihood you have of being consistent.
• Choose rules that have significance
and reflect your values as a family. If
you are raising your family to follow
God’s Word as the instruction manual
for your lives, then the rules in your
home will likely honor His standard.
• Communicate to your kids the reason
why you choose your rules.
Three Simple Rules
I’d like to share with you three rules that
are powerfully simple. They may seem
easy to dismiss, yet if you give them some
thought, they are crucial to living a life
that pleases God. Just as important as the
rules themselves, is the order of priority
they should be followed. They build one-
upon-the-other in sequence. I will also
share some practical tips to help you teach
these rules to your kids. Here they are:
Rule 1: OBEY
Rule 2: BE KIND
Rule 3: BE A HELPER
Obedience requires an understanding
that someone else has the right to tell you
what to do. When your kids are young, it
is important to teach them to obey before
they fully understand the reasons why.
The definition my mom taught me, and I
used with my kids was, “Okay, whatever
you say, I will obey right away.” The mo-
tive behind this kind of obedience is trust
followed by immediate action. If they
trust that the things you are asking them
by Heather McMillan
Choose rules that have
significance and reflect
your values as a family.