Dr. Heather W. Allen
process is not for the
faint of heart, but it is
the most rewarding
Over;the;years;I;have;written several articles about adop- tion.;Why?;Because;it’s;a subject;that;affects;so;many
children and families worldwide, and it is
when called we must heed that call.
adoption and particularly liked the one I
found in the online Merriam-Webster
choice into a relationship; especially: to
take voluntarily (a child of other par-ents);as;one’s;own;child.”
1 That is so true.
us, though, it was even more than that.
Yes, it was a choice; however, we felt that
We;initially;considered;a;domestic;adop-tion, but it was not right. It did not feel
right. It was not a match. Our child was
not in the United States. We considered an
international adoption, and we kept being
drawn to China. Our child was in China;
there was no doubt in our minds.
It is hard to describe, but we felt the door
that opened was the door to China, and
our child was there.
During the adoption process we were
children. We were not sure who we were
looking for and just knew we would
know when we saw him or her. In fact,
my husband and I would joke that if
on our bathroom mirror in bright red
lipstick this search would be a lot easier.
One;day,;as;I;was;looking;through;in-formation sent to us via email from our
children who were available, one child
stopped me cold. I saw her picture. I read
I knew she was our daughter.
I printed out the information and pic-tures;of;all;of;the;children;received;that;day,