Looking back, how much of that stuff you were going
nuts over was really important?
FREEZE. Just stop.
Think about these things: “Be still and
know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10a).
“I am the vine, ye are the branches: He
that abideth in me, and I in him, the same
bringeth forth much fruit: for without me
ye can do nothing” (John 15: 5).
“For my yoke is easy, and my burden is
light” (Matthew 11: 30).
Listen to the words of our Lord. He is
God’s Rule of
saying: “Hey, what are you doing? You
totally took off running in the other di-
rection with your branch. Get back here.
Give me that. Now, be still. I’ve got this.
I am your God. Trust me, and I will take
care of it.”
Don’t you feel better already? I bet you
can breathe again. Looking back, how
much of that stuff you were going nuts
over was really important? I mean life-
altering important? I know much of it was
annoying and you didn’t want to mess up
your pretty schedule, but is it really going
to affect the world or prevent your child
from becoming what he/she was created
to be if the (fill in the blank) doesn’t get
done today? Friends, if we become box
checkers, not only are we going to get
overwhelmed and burned out, but we
are also going to mess up relationships,
miss out on opportunities, and miss out
1. First is your relationship with
the Lord. Apart from Him you
can do nothing.
2. Second is your relationship
with others. When you have the
first one in place, you will be
equipped to have healthy relationships with others.
3. Third is your relationship with
the created world. That means
anything other than the Lord,
and others. Notice this one is
last. Be careful not to put it
before any of the others.
In the above scenario, the timeline, the
scissors, supper, the dog, and the laundry
took priority over Mom’s relationship
with her daughter. The child picked up
on that and is now exerting her will to
regain her position of priority with her
mother. The Lord puts relationships first
and we should follow His example. Do
things together. Live your lives together.
Don’t just drag the kids along or get to
them when all your “stuff” is done. This
life is theirs too, and the Lord put you
all together to experience it together. To
truly experience something means to be
involved in it. Allow the children to be
thing in its place.
• Establish the habit of taking a
minute to return things to their
places when you are finished using
them and before you go on to the
that habit as well.
• That one habit will prevent big
messes from happening to begin
with and will help prevent that
feeling of being overwhelmed.
our God is good!
with your children, and they will know
that they can come to you about anything that happens in their lives. They
will learn how to have strong, healthy relationships; how to run a household; and
how to stay connected to the Lord when
they are grown.
We are not merely survivors; we are
conquerors. If the Lord is for you, who
can be against you? Don’t take off running
in the other direction with your branch.
You must stay connected to the vine. You
cannot do it by yourself, and the best part
is . . . God doesn’t want you to. He’s got
it. Let Him have it. Much lighter burden,
yes? Oh, our God is good!
Alissa Kiker, home educator for sixteen
years, lives in North Carolina with her two
children. She was the Director of a Parents
Morning Out program; taught Sunday
School and co-op classes; and was an editor on the homeschool group yearbook for
four years. Currently she does home care
for the elderly and writes articles and short
stories. Please visit her blog at www.icedtea